Life, Loss and to Live Again – Online Counselling

Facing a New Year 💔

I haven’t written a blog or post for some time – I have been processing my own grief, after the loss of my husband last January, 2024.  And as I’m coming up to the 1-year anniversary, I felt it was time for me to write.  Writing is such a therapeutic process – of which I plan to write about in a later post. As a therapist, I have tried to follow all those “suggestions” I’ve recommended to my clients, and I have to say it has/is such a difficult journey mixed with tears, sadness, laughter, numbness, determination, and …. such an emotional “roller coaster ride”.   (NOTE – I’ve had many personal losses and this one has been difficult to navigate – l will write about losing a spouse, at a later date.  Remember, every person grieves differently, and each loss is unique.)

Facing a new year with our loss can be incredibly challenging.  I invite you to look at some ways to help you cope.

  • Reflect on Memories: Take time to remember the times you shared.
  • Set Small Goals: Focus on small and achievable goals for the new year – giving a sense of purpose and direction.
  • Connect with Others: (This one can be difficult, as many of us don’t want to feel like a burden or making others feel uncomfortable) Reach out to friends, family or support groups.
  • Create a Tribute: Create a photo album, journal, or special place in your home.
  • Practice Self-Care: This is SO important – make sure to take care of yourself physically and emotionally.  Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation
  • Seek Professional Help: Consider speaking to a therapist/counsellor for support.

Remember, it’s okay to feel a range of emotions – be gentle with yourself, grief takes time. If you are looking for support, I’m here to help

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How to be there and present when someone is grieving: what to say and not to say. I have been thinking about this topic for quite sometime, as I am often asked by friends, family members or even strangers “what do I say or need to do when I’m faced with another person’s grief?” And surprisingly enough, today I found this post on my personal Facebook page and the article resonated with me, perfect for my post!! I know that people often think that their “positive” well-meaning comments (Just get over it, You need to be positive and move on, Time will heal everything, etc.) are healing words someone who is grieving. Unfortunately, all though well meaning, do nothing to support the griever. If you ever find yourself in this position of knowing what to say – this article is for you. Remember grief comes in many different forms – not only in loss of a person, but loss of a pet, job, downsizing, injury, children leaving home, divorce and so much more.
Love this post, “When positivity can be toxic”.

Make sure you watch the little video with Brene Brown narrating – the humour is healing too!
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