Life, Loss and to Live Again – Online Counselling

Facing a New Year 💔

I haven’t written a blog or post for some time – I have been processing my own grief, after the loss of my husband last January, 2024.  And as I’m coming up to the 1-year anniversary, I felt it was time for me to write.  Writing is such a therapeutic process – of which I plan to write about in a later post. As a therapist, I have tried to follow all those “suggestions” I’ve recommended to my clients, and I have to say it has/is such a difficult journey mixed with tears, sadness, laughter, numbness, determination, and …. such an emotional “roller coaster ride”.   (NOTE – I’ve had many personal losses and this one has been difficult to navigate – l will write about losing a spouse, at a later date.  Remember, every person grieves differently, and each loss is unique.)

Facing a new year with our loss can be incredibly challenging.  I invite you to look at some ways to help you cope.

  • Reflect on Memories: Take time to remember the times you shared.
  • Set Small Goals: Focus on small and achievable goals for the new year – giving a sense of purpose and direction.
  • Connect with Others: (This one can be difficult, as many of us don’t want to feel like a burden or making others feel uncomfortable) Reach out to friends, family or support groups.
  • Create a Tribute: Create a photo album, journal, or special place in your home.
  • Practice Self-Care: This is SO important – make sure to take care of yourself physically and emotionally.  Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation
  • Seek Professional Help: Consider speaking to a therapist/counsellor for support.

Remember, it’s okay to feel a range of emotions – be gentle with yourself, grief takes time. If you are looking for support, I’m here to help

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When I saw Byron Robbie’s artwork – I was amazed at how he encapsulated my thoughts and feelings about grief and loss in my logo. He was a teacher, a counsellor, and an administrator and has always been an artist. The important meaning of my logo – I wanted something that represented the strength needed
to come through grief, even though one may feel “dead” inside – like parts of this pine and the darkness created by loss – there is always hope for new growth that allows the tree to live on as depicted by the new needles, the glow from the sun and the strength of the earth to support new growth (illustrated in the circular border). Just as in life, there can be life beyond the loss – never the same but different – and there is the
possibility “to live again”.

Here are Byron Robbie’s insights into the Logo! “The image is hopeful but recognizes the dark and light of emotional life. Reading the image from left to right it begins in some darkness, but a darkness that has a complex uniqueness. There is value in exploring the uniqueness of what knowledge may be discovered. From the shadows on the left, the sky gradually becomes lighter with subtle changes until the sky is mostly a clear blue, but again with some intricate and mysterious qualities.
The main character of the image is a Ponderosa Pine that stands solitary in its grassland environment. On the left of the tree are some dying branches, while there is a more healthy part of the tree on the right. Indeed, despite the dying branches, the tree is thriving, producing cones for subsequent generations.
The sun represents warmth and clarity and is the focus of the entire image. A circular border representing the four seasons, four directions, and four essences of life surrounding the image as a whole.”

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