Life, Loss and to Live Again – Online Counselling

Facing a New Year đź’”

I haven’t written a blog or post for some time – I have been processing my own grief, after the loss of my husband last January, 2024.  And as I’m coming up to the 1-year anniversary, I felt it was time for me to write.  Writing is such a therapeutic process – of which I plan to write about in a later post. As a therapist, I have tried to follow all those “suggestions” I’ve recommended to my clients, and I have to say it has/is such a difficult journey mixed with tears, sadness, laughter, numbness, determination, and …. such an emotional “roller coaster ride”.   (NOTE – I’ve had many personal losses and this one has been difficult to navigate – l will write about losing a spouse, at a later date.  Remember, every person grieves differently, and each loss is unique.)

Facing a new year with our loss can be incredibly challenging.  I invite you to look at some ways to help you cope.

  • Reflect on Memories: Take time to remember the times you shared.
  • Set Small Goals: Focus on small and achievable goals for the new year – giving a sense of purpose and direction.
  • Connect with Others: (This one can be difficult, as many of us don’t want to feel like a burden or making others feel uncomfortable) Reach out to friends, family or support groups.
  • Create a Tribute: Create a photo album, journal, or special place in your home.
  • Practice Self-Care: This is SO important – make sure to take care of yourself physically and emotionally.  Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation
  • Seek Professional Help: Consider speaking to a therapist/counsellor for support.

Remember, it’s okay to feel a range of emotions – be gentle with yourself, grief takes time. If you are looking for support, I’m here to help

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Online Counselling vs In-Person Counselling

Is On-Line Counselling Right for You?

Due to our ever-changing world, technology and our own lifestyles, the practice of counselling therapy has also evolved. My practice provides the client with an alternative to face-2-face (meeting in the counselling therapist’s office) by working from your computer using the internet. All that is needed access to secure internet, privacy to write or tell your story on your personal computer (to ensure security, this is strongly recommended). Usually, counselling therapy begins when a client chooses an online therapist by locating them through an association (eg. Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association https://www.ccpa-accp.ca), a website or a search engine (Google, Bing); and then contacts the counselling therapist via email or telephone or text. In my practice, I generally will reply within 2-3 business days with an initial 15 minute free consultation. Questions may be – what your initial concerns are, how my practice works, information detailing about the process. During this time the client can ask questions and seek clarification on how best we can work together; and if the client believes we are a “good fit” we will schedule an appointment. Prior to our first appointment, I will send some pre-counselling/intake forms and agreements to complete – just as I would do with face-2-face. The relationship between my client and I is the base for moving forward – where my client feels comfortable working together. This relationship is extremely important for an effective outcome.

Reasons for Choosing Online Secure Messaging

Convenience –writing your story when you are ready – no appointment is needed, adapts to your lifestyle, allowing you to write when time works for you at a time that suits you!  Allows greater access to counselling if you are housebound or living in rural community.

Flexibility – allows you the time to write and to put them into draft, look at them any time, edit and reflect, make changes if needed. Online allows you the time to tell your story.

Safer for some people – removes some of the anxiety you may feel, no need to worry about missing an appointment.  Others may feel safer writing rather than speaking to a counsellor.

Sometimes a person may feel their grief is less than another person’s grief.

Increased anonymity and privacy – no one will know you are seeing a counsellor.

Record of discussion– perfect for reflection, which can help you to find solutions to your issues – like a personal journal.  Re-reading can clarify things, remind you of what’s been discussed, sometimes may bring more meaning later.

Time– anytime, anywhere, when the time suits you – IMPORTANT – make sure your site is secure!

“Doing it for Yourself” – writing, reflecting, and revising your story gives youcontrol and ownership– can be very powerful in your healing.

Video & Phone Conferencing

Video Conferencing – a form of online counselling that most closely resembles a face-2-face session.  With video conference counselling, both the counsellor and client can view each other by use of an internet video camera.

Phone Conferencing– access to a phone, preferably a cell phone, as one can move to a private area in the home and using headphones that minimize background noise.

 

Working together in video/phone conferencing can be just as engaging as sitting together in a counselling office, however, unlike online secure messaging an appointment must be made.

Reasons for NOT Choosing Online Counselling

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