“No one loves you unconditionally as your beloved pet” – Cynthia Dobesh
Our pets are our family and when we lose them or must make the decision to re-home them or have to put them down – we are heartbroken. Our pets love us unconditionally, and they often are the ones we can tell our deepest and sometimes darkest secrets to – knowing that those thoughts are safe with our pets. Never to be told and never to be judged by them. Pet Loss is disenfranchised grief – a grief that others may not understand or may even dismiss, and yet the process is so very real – we love them so deeply, knowing full well that we are most likely going to outlive them.
“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” – Anatole France
We have all experienced losses throughout our life and some of these losses leave deeper scars than others – and all need healing. Relational losses vary for everyone and each stands alone, not to be compared to another – from the passing of those close to us – family (spouses, siblings, children [including the unborn], relatives) and friends; to break-ups, separations, and divorces.
Each one is different and cannot be compared. Counselling therapy can help with this grief.
“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.” – John Kabat-Zinn
Injury or Illness Loss
So many times a person’s grief goes undetected or is overlooked because of the nature of the illness or injury and sometimes this grief may lead to questioning one’s self-esteem, sense of worthiness, and mental health (including suicidal ideation). How does one cope with their illness or injury and find hope, when they are grieving the loss of what was and what is now – straddling a line between the past and the present?
Your company is downsizing and you have been let go; you have finally reached retirement and you don’t want to or don’t know what to do with yourself; you’ve been fired and are wondering where you go from here; or your company has decided to transfer you to another city. The grieving process associated with the loss of a job is similar to other kinds of loss. Being open and honest as to the why, can help with moving towards “where do I go from here” or “what do I do now”?